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Iaan
Hi, so this is basically my profile: teen from UK. Been bullied both at school and online. Moved around different schools and different cities. Dad has to move a lot because of work. Have an older sister - she is always busy. We have a cat - he is always in my room. Mum works office hours. I like riding my bike and playing old school Nintendo - no one can bully me when I play Nintendo.

Hope to find someone to talk to. Just to not be judged!
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Aileen
Hullo Iaan!
Nice to see that you have found Cybersmile. If you ever want more specific help or need support/advice then don't hesitate to go to www.cybersmile.org/advice-help
Otherwise I or anyone else here at the forums will always listen and do what we can to support and advice you. Or just talk on whatever matter may fancy you!

Nintendo you say...I like the Super Mario games even if I haven't played for years (probably decades)...and I would play if I had a Nintendo at home. You probably play something a bit more advanced in graphics (though you did write "old school").

Stay amazing Iaan,

~Aileen
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ajm1981
Hi Iaan
Welcome to Cybersmile.
This is certainly a place to chat where you will not be judged!!
You mention you are bullied both at school and online? Is it by the same group of people maybe?
I am also a fan of Nintendo especially Mario bros those games have kept me entertained for many many lonely hours.
I would be happy to chat with you in regards to life, bullying, both!!
Don't forget there are also advisors you can chat to privately, the lady above gave you the web address.
But you will find many people post on the community forum too and it might help you to open up a little about the bullying you are experiencing and to chat to others experiencing the same.
You also sound a little lonely if you don't mind me saying and this is a fantastic community to chat to people it has certainly helped me in many ways!
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CybersmileTeam
Hi Iaan, welcome to our community! It's worth noting that you can email help@cybersmile.org 24/7 for trained support should you feel you need it. We look forward to reading your topics and answers!
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Sheepsies
It's nice to know that you have a safe space Iaan that can help a lot, you seem like a really nice person. Speaking of nintendo do you play Pokemon on it? Pokemon is one of my favourite games if you don't already have it i'd reccomend you try and get a pokemon game, any are good! :)
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heidilynnrussell
Hi Iaan!
Sending you a big hug from Kentucky, USA!
What is your cat's name? Sounds like your cat loves Nintendo, too!
Glad you are here on the forum.
Heidi
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Iaan
Heidi - Our cat is called Mory. Mum named him Mortimer after someone but I forgot who.
Sheepsies- Ive never played Pokemon on Nintendo actually, only on cards. But I prefer playing Magic if Im playing with cards. On Nintendo I like playing Super Mario, Duck Tails and Chip n' Dale Rescue Rangers. I got my uncles old Nintendo 8 bit console. He introduced me to his games a few years ago and its really fun! But I think I need a newer console if I am to play Pokemon!?
Ajm1981 - in my current school Im not bullied. Ive been in this school for almost a year now so thats good.
I like being alone though. But there is a huge difference between being alone and feeling lonely. The bullying at my other schools made me feel lonely. But it's better now.
Thanks Aileen for replying, I saw you mentioned that we could write here. Tonight I found all of your nice messages. Thanks everyone!
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GamerGirl
Hello Iaan! Looking forward to getting to know you more : )
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terky2236
hello IAAN welcome to the community
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Reflective_Joy
Welcome IAAN! Look forward to hearing more from you!

P.S- I grew up on Nintendo. Loved it! Haven't played in years. Welcome to the forum and feel free to check out all our other conversations/threads on here if you haven't already. Doesn't matter how old they are, you can contribute. :-)
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Aileen
Iaan - I've played all of those games when I was a kid! Don't know if it makes me feel old or just nostalgic that you play those games to :)
I wish I had a cat. Grew up in a household without pets (though I had an imaginary dog for a rew years when I was a kid) and as a result I can't really get comfortable with the idea of hairs of animals in my home - I try to not be that bothered by it if I'm visiting friends with pets but I can't help it, on some level it does slightly bother me when my clothes are covered in hairs by the time I get home. I suppose one gets used to it if it is your own cat. And I do love felines, and I would get a cat imidiatly if I thought I could handle it!
Magic, I've played a few times as my brother and his friends (and as a result his kids too) all play and he tried to teach me in my late teens but I never really got that good and once my brother moved away from home I didn't keep it up - I had two decks, one mixed red and white then another with just green cards. I'm struggling with terminology here, hope you understand what I mean? And I suddenly wonder where those decks have gone? Do I still have them in some box hidden away...I'll look for them and ask my brother to go through it all again with me, I can't surely be that hopeless as to not get it a second time!?
Glad to hear you aren't being bullied anymore at school. Please feel free to write about your experience if you ever want to, but never ever feel the pressure that you have to. We are (if I may say so myself) a ridiculously understanding bunch of people here at Cybersmile :) And I hope you don't mind me asking, online, how is that going? A few of us have already mentioned it and perhaps you've already contacted one of our advisors? If you ever feel the need to talk with someone more privetly and see what they may support and help you with then just send an email to help@cybersmile.org
I understand you completely when you say it is a "huge difference between being alone and feeling lonely". I was and still am a person who likes being alone. My parents always got a bit worried at summer when school was out that I'll spend days "on my own" but I never felt lonely - I could call my friends whenever to go out and play or they'd call me. And I played with my siblings too. But those hours I spent alone was for me to think, reflekt and also to just let whatever inspiration I had flow down on paper as I painted or wrote stories. And my parents understood after some time that I really wasn't lonely. It never is a problem when we ourselves genuinely choose to be on our own from when the choice is taken by others to exclude us. I truly hope this new school gives you a better experience on classmates, pupils, teachers and the school board. Sometimes when one has lived with bullying in several school environments it can be hard to trust any new school and how it is run due to previous experiences. Being open to new experiences does in some ways make one more vulnerable especially when one has had bad experiences before. Just remember that anyone acting out towards you by means of bullying is always a reflection of them, and never a reflection of you!

Ps. I love your profile picture. Do you know other works by the artist? Do you like street art or is it just that Really good quote that made you choose it? Either way, it's a good one!

Stay amazing,

~Aileen
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heidilynnrussell
Iaan,

FYI my kiddo is a huge fan of gaming systems (he has everything under roof including an old-school Gameboy). He is 13 and is thinking of joining Cybersmile and the forum here after I shared with him what you are going through. He's had a lot of first-hand experiences with bullies (both online and at school) and related to a lot of what you wrote here.
Just wanted to let you know that, because sometimes when we're going through a tough time, it can feel like we're the only ones. But it helps to know there are others out there with similar battles and struggles.
Anyway, we are sending you a lot of positive and happy vibes here and hope you are having a terrific week!
Heidi
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CybersmileTeam

In reply to heidilynnrussell

Looking forward to greeting your son into our community Heidi! Thank you : )
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heidilynnrussell

In reply to *CybersmileTeam*

Thanks, Cybersmile team! He's not on yet, but when / if he finally decides to join, I'll send you a DM on Twitter so that you know which one he is. He'll hide behind a cartoon avatar with a pseudonym. Thanks again for all of your support.
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Cyberninja
Hi Iaan,
Welcome to the forum! We are all here to help each other and we don't judge anyone. I like what you said about feeling ok about being alone being different to feeling lonely. There is a lot of peace and strength to be found in solitude. Great post. :))
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GeluDragon
Hello, I can see you have had alot of problemos, but kid, at least you wernt wishing you were dead like I was when I was in third grade... Forget that. The point is I want to hep you, just tell me what these bullies have been doing to you and I will tell you what kind of bullying it is and how to deal with it, with one of those methods NOT teling a adult, those backfire faster than a missle, take it from me kid. So just let me know and you'll be set to go.
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Reflective_Joy
Welcome to the forum Geludragon!
Thanks for offering to share your experiences and offering to help others. Look forward to more posts from you! 👍????😀
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CybersmileTeam
Welcome to our community Geludragon 👍
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Iaan
Yeah Aileen, I like street art and the Scampi image is good. Like, it's well done with the stencil, then with the red text it looks really cool.
Im busy and dont have that much time to write today but thanks everyone for your kind words.
Heidi, if/whenever your boy chooses to join Im sure everyone will be as welcoming to him as they have been to me :) let him take his time if he needs it. Im here now and maybe some other kids get on here while they are being bullied. Everyone is different. I went through my experiences with that and now after everything I am comfortable with coming to Cybersmile. I like the fact that there is no stigma here with saying I was bullied. Others pity you or dont know what to say. Everyone here is so supportive and just talk about anything that we want to talk about. Yeah, so mostly its related to bullying but even if not. Just to know that people get it and just respects everyones difference.
Hope Ill have time to write more soon.
Stay cool everyone!
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CybersmileTeam

In reply to Iaan

Hope to hear from you soon Iaan! Glad you're enjoying our community.
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heidilynnrussell

In reply to Iaan

Hi Iaan, he is here under a pseudonym, and he is enjoying the community!

I hope you have a wonderful Sunday, and isn't it great that we have a place to join online where no one is ridiculed, demeaned or made to feel less of a person?

You will find this is a safe place where you will receive a lot of encouragement and support from others. It's a great place to go when you need a boost -- and check out the "Positivity Shrine" for some great little memes to lift your mood, too.

Have a great day,
Heidi
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Aileen
You are absolutely right Iaan, Cybersmile is here for anyone in whatever situation - if you are being bullied, if you are bullying, know someone who bullies, know someone who is being bullied or if you have experienced bullying before but not anymore. You are welcome here even if you don't know anything or anyone who have experienced bullying! We are all here to talk, support and learn from one another.

Everyone have a great day and stay amazing,

~Aileen
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GamerGirl
Cybersmile is a community and 'movement' of people that celebrate all that is great about technology and together explore ways of improving the whole online experience around the world. *breaths out*
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CybersmileTeam

In reply to GamerGirl

Wow! We couldn't have said it better ourselves GAMERGIRL!
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Aileen
Just checking in, hope everything is fine (or at least bearable) with everyone?
I just spent a week at my parents and the (almost ridiculously warm) summer heat had us slightly dozy but enjoying their garden with all the flowers and the different berries my mother keeps (delicious bowls of mixed berries made into pie every other day).
Sorry to have been away from Cybersmile, but we all need vacations (right?) and time to switch daily life off for a bit!

Anyhow, stay amazing,

~Aileen
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CybersmileTeam

In reply to *Aileen*

Great to hear from you AILEEN! Hope you've enjoyed your break and looking forward to your contribution unions to the community :)
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GamerGirl

In reply to *Aileen*

We missed you on her Aileen, great to have you back!
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Iaan
Ive mostly been playing Pokemon Go. Its really fun. For anyone who havent tried it yet, do! Buy be careful of traffic!
My dad might be moving because of work again at the end of the year so that feels really bad. I like my current school. So obviously I dont want to move again. Its the only school where I havent had any bad time. But maybe they wont move him and we can stay? Its not decided yet. Waiting is kind of a bummer tho.
Otherwise its okay. Nice weather makes it kind of difficult to be all to low.
Aileen - I was wondering what you use when you paint. You know, what kind of techniques do you prefer? And what kind of motifs do you like?
Bye for now...
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heidilynnrussell
Hi Iaan,
It sounds like you and I have something in common. My parents moved about once every two years when I was growing up. I know how it feels to feel like you are not "rooted," and I know how it feels to leave a school that you are enjoying. It's super hard, and it's very lonely.
But here is a good piece of news: When you are finally a grown-up, you will be SO strong and will be able to adapt to new situations so much more easily than other people your age. You will be amazed at how resilient you are, and you will be amazed at how you will have a "can do" attitude and that nothing can stop you. That is because when you move around as a kid, you learn different ways of adapting, of meeting new people, of feeling self-confident and of just surviving.
The down side is that you don't feel like you really "belong" anywhere. People still ask me where I am "from," and I always say, "The United States North Eastern seaboard," because I grew up in six different states. As an adult, I have moved around a lot, too.
That said, just keep staying connected to the people you know will always be there for you. Don't lose contact with your old friends -- I still am in contact with friends from different places where I grew up! It's very cool!
I don't know if this helps, but I saw your post and wanted to give you some encouragement. Hopefully your dad won't move, but if he does, let us know if you need support. I get it! I'm here for you!
Heidi
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Iaan
Thanks Heidi! I know I usually dont make friends, no point to try and as Ive always been bullied Im not exactly first in line for other kids to befriend. So in my new school when kids made an effort to become friends with me or took me quite some time before I genuinely considered them my friends and I knew that we always move so that too made me reluctant to make friends but now I am actually enjoying going to school for the first time and hang out on weekends and even if my dad doesnt get transferred this time it is just a matter of time before he does. It just sucks. I havent told anyone at school yet. I dont know how my friends will react. I dont know how to be around them now. Perhaps Im already trying to distance myself from them to make it easier on everyone? It would have been better if I hadnt made friends.
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Aileen
Oh Iaan, it doesn't sound like you're in a good place right now. I think and hope you'll find that missing a friend might actually be a good feeling to have. There is a bond in friendships that distance can not brake. I understand it might feel like a helpless situation that is out of your control but imagine keeping in contact with those new friends. Nowadays such a thing is so much easier than when I was a kid. Texts and facetime and a whole bunch of apps and technology to help you all stay in touch with one another.
Whenever (if ever) this move takes place you will be okay, sad probably yes, but okay. You have gone through hard times with bullying and still manage to keep on going and now made friends. Iaan you will get through this too.
And remember we are always here for whatever you may need. If you tell your friends at school I imagine they too will be.
Sending you a strengthening hug lad.
Remember that you are amazing,

~Aileen